Questions Without Answers

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Questions Without Answers was inspired by the ducks in the pond — not the ones pictured. Following my morning Tai Chi training, I chose a spot by the pond to meditate, rather than the forest where I usually go, and I sat watching them in silence.

As I sat in silence, the birds on the pond were busy being themselves, splashing around, making a variety of sounds, paddling, diving, and pruning themselves.

And there, in the duck pond, for all the world to see, was the mystery of life in all its glory. Why the hell did my son die of cancer? The same reason those ducks won’t be here in a decade or so (yes, they live that long!), the same reason I won’t be here, and ultimately, the same reason for everything–because.

Searching for answers is fruitless. When a toddler first asks the question “why”, it should be nipped in the bud. We need to figure out how to maintain a natural curiosity while accepting fully that it is what it is.

“Because” as an answer is absolute acceptance. It brings peace. Can you accept it as an answer?

Why are you here? Because.

Why are you reading this? Because.

Questions Without Answers

Humans know so little
Yet think they know so much.
Questions for every situation,
They try to number-crunch. 
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Navigating Grief – Changing Relationships

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Death Transforms Relationships

While dealing with the recent loss of my twenty-one-year-old son, I went to see a local Catholic priest. He happens to be a highly trained and experienced psychotherapist.

As we discussed death and the rituals surrounding it, he opined that when anyone dies, our relationship with them changes. This strongly resonates with me because it is something that I have already been reflecting on deeply.

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